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  • "There are certain moments where you feel strangely blessed like either you were a great giraffe in some previous life and this is your reward or every so often God just leans down through the clouds and kisses you and says, 'This will be a chance for you to be you, just enjoy.' "

    Every week when we gather in the basement gender equity comes up. A friend of mine was giving a talk and mentioned how in her pursuit to be a certain type of person, she'd buried all the other parts of her. Including being an award-winning poet. Recently, at an event filled with speakers she wore a dress and high heels. This was a big deal because the field of Computer Science is so imbalanced when it comes to gender. At a tour of a fairly big business she was asked by the senior staff how more females could be invited to work here and because she was close to them and a brave person she said that having tampons in the washroom would go a long way. In some of the other offices she's been to there is nail polish remover and lip gloss and the fact that some of these places don't offer daycare is an outrage not just to the females but to the parents too because husbands and fathers have responsibilities too of course.

    My dear friend Chris, the Qcumber maker, was speaking and as usual being very modest. But he brought along a hammock-based smile which made me chuckle. He too was talking about how you are not your code. There is so much more to a person than their job description and the stories we tell ourselves can sometimes be so different from the stories we tell each other. Feynman, he told us, wasn't limited to physics and his curiousity spilled into lock-picking and playing steel drums and dancing and philosophy and so much more.

    I was walking out the building with a friend whom I've grown quite attached to and will miss seeing regularly and he was telling me that as a kid he used to feel so emotionally attached to the characters in films that if anything happened to them he would become very anxious and so he rarely watches movies anymore and it was similar with books and still is. Knowing him, it made a lot more sense to hear this and the way he is.

    It is difficult to put your heart out on paper so sometimes some people somewhere like to write about how they are unable to write and that isn't a bad place to start because all your life you've been building this dam and it is important to break it down and then rebuild it but breaking it can be slow but once you make a few cracks it should crumble quick.

    Captain Peter Pan died today and it made me immensely sad. Maybe towards the end he felt like he was acting too much and it is difficult to remember that sometimes we are the solid ground for others even though we aren't on solid ground ourselves.
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