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  • “What do you see when you turn out the light?”

    “I cannot tell you, but I know it’s mine.”

    - Lennon/McCartney, from “A Little Help from my Friends”
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    Reach out in the darkness
    And you may find a friend

    - By Jim & Cathy Post, Friend and Lover song “Reach Out in the Darkness
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    For them that think death's honesty
    Won't fall upon them naturally
    Life sometimes must get lonely

    And if my thought dreams could be seen
    They'd probably put my head in a guillotine
    But it's alright, Ma, it's life, and life only

    - By Bob Dylan, from “It’s Alright, Ma”
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    They say, you’re only as sick as your secrets. I used to hear that and think, “Right. If you knew some of my secrets…” I had secrets I was sure I would take to the grave with me. I’d rather be sick than give up my secrets. I held them close, like a protective blanket or a shield.

    I eventually learned that no matter what I think I’ve done or thought that no one else could possbily have done or thought, there’s always someone that has done it, thought it, or at least who can understand it without judgment. Some secrets are better not announced to the entire world – but, you better find someone that you can tell them to, or you will take them to the grave with you – an early grave.
  • I actually did have something that I did that I have never found another person alive who has done quite the same thing that I did – but, I did find someone that I could trust enough to tell it to. I had carried that secret for over three years at that point, and telling it to another person was like dropping about fifty pounds all at once. I felt so much lighter, and suddenly had so much more positive energy.

    I used to think that if I told all my secrets, I’d be giving away a big part of who I am. I’d be giving away control of my life. I learned that you do have to use discretion about who you tell certain secrets to – some won’t be ready to hear what you have to say, as they might not have the best reference point to put it into perspective. Usually, if I become willing to let go of a secret, the right person to share it with will be put in my path, and I’ll know it when they are.

    The more open I am, the less guarded I am about who I am and what I’ve done, the better position I am in to be of service to others. To add another quote to the ones above, another one from the man, Bob Dylan, “you gotta serve somebody”. If all you’re doing, ever, is serving yourself – you’re going to be on one lonely trip.
  • There’s real power in standing up and being who you are, with no secrets, and nothing held back – this is me, take it or leave it as you see fit – you’d be amazed at how much richer life becomes when you don’t have to worry about anyone finding out your secrets.

    I once an official say, in a security briefing, when I was getting a high level security clearance, that they don’t worry so much about what you have or haven’t done in your life, when they conduct a high level security clearance. They’re more concerned with what you might be hiding. Those secrets that you don’t want anyone to find out about. That’s what a spy or an enemy agent will find, and capitalize on, and use to blackmail you with.

    So, don’t put yourself in a position to be blackmailed by a spy or an enemy agent. If you have a secret you swear you will never tell another soul – find someone you can trust, and tell them, anyway. Just make sure they aren’t a spy or an enemy agent before you do!
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