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  • Recently I’ve heard many heart wrenching stories coming from friends, and reading many emotional posts from people I barely know who are going through a terrible heartbreak. Although I probably never talk to those people, or even have run-ins with them anymore, I can’t help but feel this dreadful connection for what they are going through. Like many of us I have been there and I can understand and relate to the hopelessness of the broken-hearted

    Why do people say heart break anyways? Why the heart? What is a heart, one may ask. A vital body organ that pumps blood out into the rest of your body and take in oxygen replenished blood back around. In other words, the heart is the ultimate life pump. Is that why it’s called a heart break? Because the most vital function of your body that injects and maintains a person’s livelihood, is ultimately broken? Or is it because with every beating of the heart you just feel the pain pumping through more strongly with each electrical signal, and you automatically attribute that pain to your heart being broken.

    If you ask me, A person is not just dealing with a heart break... you, yourself, as a physically capable, and thriving person, is broken all together. Your brain starts to overheat with every thought of that person and drains itself of every delicious memory you "once had." Your extremities start to feel like it has no will to move. Every movement of your arms and legs seem to weigh down on your already fragile body and mind. Your body feels heavy, lethargic and useless. The conflicting moments of not being able to sleep at night and not wanting to wake up in the morning because you are haunted of memories of that person at night, and that vacant cold spot next to you that seems like it can never be filled. Not being able to wake up because you don’t want to face another day without that person. You are just broken. Mentally, Physically, Emotionally.

    To those of you that are feeling this lifeless spell and is going through a very dark heartbreak I urge you to remind yourself all the great feelings of falling in love. The “1 unread message” you see on your phone after a long day at work, class, or after you wake up in the morning. Reading the “How are you?” “What are you up to right now?” “What are you doing?” The wait to not answer right away because you are unsure how to answer properly, or just so you don’t seem desperate, or make it obvious that you like that person back. Over thinking every word you say to the person when you have to leave a voicemail. All the backspacing you use while chatting with the person, looking for the perfect combination of words. The perpetual smile you cannot erase from your face when you hear their voice on the phone. The butterflies you feel when you first see each other after some time of being away. The heart pounding moments when you are sitting next to that person in an empty room. The first time you look into each other eyes and realize that awkward longing to wanting to not look away but you have to. The first time their hands hook onto yourself and the uncomfortable sweating starts. Your first date. Your first time sharing food, or drinking from the same straw. How the ordinary things the person say can make you laugh, and even smile when you think back on it again. Your first awkward kiss. Your first night cuddling next to each other, and talking all night. How you feel when you first see the person and how it feels to hug them when you see them. The midnight butterflies being up thinking of that special person. Replaying that one special kiss over and over again in your head. This time also not wanting to sleep at night, or wake up in the morning, but for a whole different reason. Not wanting to sleep at night so you have late night talks while cuddling, and not wanting to wake up because you want to hold on to that person a little longer as the morning sunrise lift over your sheets.

    Just remind yourself how great it felt to be in love, and reason how even with the heartbreak you would do it all over again in a heartbeat. You have no regrets, and the time will soon come when you will fall in love again, with someone else, who will be nothing like that other person you once loved, but better. Just remind yourself that it will happen as long as you let it. You will be loved, and most importantly someone out there is just like you, waiting for someone to love them just as much as you want to love another person. And wanting to give a person all their love, someone just like you. Yes love can be a very poisonous intangible, but it is also the only anecdote to cure the broken hearted.

    So do what you need to do to get up from that dark spot that you feel like you’ve been in for a very long time. Strive to pick up those broken pieces, and go about your day like you deserve, because everyone deserves to meet that person who will love them just as much as they want to be loved. Above all, you deserve that love just like every else. Even that person that broke your heart deserves love, as cliche as it sounds, maybe walking away will only make the world a better place.

    With Love,

    Someone like you that somehow managed to survived, and came out of it smarter and happier than before.
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