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  • "I am NOT selfish!!!', I shouted with frustration.

    "Yes, you are, you only care about yourself and no one else!!', she slammed the phone on my face.

    As a thirteen year old girl, those words sounded harsh and extremely hurtful. I sat down, crying. With a silent scream repeatedly saying in my head, 'Im not selfish, Im not...you didn't hear me, you only heard what you wanted to.'

    My Father, seeing the tears asked, what happened. With teary eyes I explained, how my best friend called me 'SELFISH', a word I absolutely hated and didn't think I was that in anyway. I felt insulted and humiliated by that word.

    He smiled, his eyes sparkling with a soft smile, and said, ' Why is it so bad to be selfish? what if you are selfish...then what? does that make you a bad person? do you even know what it means?'

    'Selfish means someone who takes care of themselves. Someone who puts their needs before pleasing others. How can taking care of yourself be bad?...it's like saying...you have to do YOUR homework, before you help your friend with hers!! How is that bad?'

    With a quite gaze, I kept listening to his word, "There are two kinds of people in this world Humna, one who spend their whole life being selfless, thinking making others happy will make them happy. The second are the kind who make themselves happy first, with the hope of keeping others happy. To have the world running, we must have both these sort of people. Imagine yourself as a fountain... one that absorbs water from the outside in and one that flows from inside out. Which one feels more natural...Really its just a matter of choice...which direction do YOU choose to flow from."

    "Also...just because your beloved best friend thinks you are a certain way, doesn't make you that. You are exactly who you know, you are...no one lives as close to yourself as you do literally. Don't let others opinions of you, make you...have the freedom to choose and change to grow with time."

    Today, after a world of ups and downs, looking back in time, this story reminds me how important it is for me to fall in love with myself again. Years of living, to please others, my spirit feels awakened and ready to turn from outside in, to inside out.
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