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  • What if you meet people for a very specific reason? Whether it is to teach them something, to learn something from them, or both. I mean, I know lots of people have thrown this theory out there, but seriously, lets apply this to love. What if the reason two people fall in love is because they perceive something about a person that they are attracted to? I know falling in love with someone also has a lot to do with whether one finds the other attractive, but there is also something else. What is it that lets that person know that things will somehow work out, if only for a little bit? It could be the other person leading them on, but what is it that allows for that “leading on”? And so I propose this theory.
    Lets say we all have psychic abilities. We perceive vibes from others, but are also able to read things about people. Things that they have never told us, but we know. Such as, we might be able to tell that someone has a neediness that we feel we can fill, or anger we can soothe, etc. We are able to see these things. I know this seems like an obvious statement, but think about it. WHAT makes that happen? It doesn’t just happen. So lets say psychic abilities. So, we see these people, and we aren’t sure what we think. Then we decide we want to start talking to them. Something draws two people together. It could be that one is needy, while the other is always trying to fill gaps. This is when people come together. Opposites attract, or so they say. But why? I think that is why. Because we perceive these things about people, that we know we need, or rather, our subconscious knows we need, and so we draw towards that.
    What happens when the love that was there starts falling apart? I think this is related to growing. I think we meet people in order to learn something from them. Even if you just pass someone by in New York city, and you didn’t really formally meet, you left something there with that person. All the people you see, you leave something behind with, and vice versa. Maybe the shirt you were wearing made an old man remember a time when he was a child, wearing a shirt similar to yours, and something amazing happened. Or it could also be that maybe the shoes you were wearing seemed really ugly to someone, and so you left this little thought of ugly shoes in their heads, if only for a few seconds. So, back to when love falls apart. I believe it is related to learning. You became attracted to a person, lets say because you are needy. They are all about giving. You were together for a long time, and loved every minute of it, except for the moments when you started realizing that something was wrong. All of a sudden you start fighting, but it’s okay, because you talk it out, and keep moving forward together. But one day, you don’t. One day, something happens, someone, anyone, comes into the picture and you break up. This someone else that came in didn’t cause the break up. This someone was just like the someone in the street that thought your shoes were ugly. But here’s the thing. You saw that someone, or maybe you didn’t. BUT, you realized that you were no longer needy. You didn’t think, “Oh, I’m no longer needy” but your subconscious did. I think THAT is what causes breaks ups. Whatever it is that that person was meant to teach you, fill in for you, was filled. You taught each other, and now you must move on. I believe we all have an endless list of things we need. Every time we are in any relationship, friendships, boyfriend/girlfriends, etc., we are in them because we are learning. We know that eventually we must move on, and so we do. Whether we break up with our partner, dump a friend, or leave home. We do it because we have learned what we must learn.
    There is one question here, in my mind, right now, though. What about the people that are together for years? They get married at 23 and stay together till death. I know there is so much more to relationships than what I am addressing here, but it’s just this concept is mind boggling to me. I would say that for the people that are together for 2 days, or the people that are together for 67 years, its all about them. For the people that are together for two days, they didn’t quite feel, they just assumed. They shut down their subconscious and tried messing with it themselves, but they still learned SOMETHING. And for the couple that were together for 67 years, they grew together, at the same pace, and had the same needs. They were in sync, always catching up with each other, never letting go, just flowing forward. I believe this is what people call soul mates.
    I believe in my theory. It gives life a bit more of an outline, something to go by, something to hold on to. And even if not entirely true, it makes sense. There is a purpose and a reason to being here. Who knows if we will ever know it, or if we are even supposed to know it. But I think there is something thrilling about trying to figure it out, and put together what you think and feel into a life formula. Thinking about our subconscious communicating with someone else’s subconscious and letting us love is so amazing. And it leads to so many questions and amazing discoveries. There is so much more to this life than just living it...
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