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  • Family bed, co-sleeping, sleep-sharing...

    I never thought I would be sleeping in one room with a 10 year old, a 5 year old, my husband and of course, myself. Correction - I never thought I would love sleeping in one room with a 10 year old, a 5 year old, my husband and of course, myself. My oldest child does have his own bed now - right next to the big one. He climbs in for a cuddle every morning, and sometimes for a bit the night before. Every once in a blue moon, he'll stay the whole night.

    When I was expecting my first child, I bought a crib. I bought a cradle. I started to imagine the crib in a different room and realized that it didn't feel right. So the crib went next to the bed. Then the side came off the crib. It became a place to change diapers, a place to hold my glass of water. My child slept in the crook of my arm, latched on to my breast like a suction cup for much of the night.

    When he got mobile, our bed began to look like a dangerous cliff. I took the bed frame apart, took out the box springs and the mattress was on the floor. The crib mattress was lowered as far as it would go and remained a rather large and bouncy bedside table. As he grew older, the box springs were put back on. But before the frame had a chance, I was pregnant with a second child. I looked at the crib next to the bed. I was never going to use it for more than a changing station. Once my second child was past his constant middle of the night diaper changes I sold the crib. I sold the cradle that had been in storage for 5 years. The bed went back to the floor, then back onto the box springs again. Where it still remains. I won't be having anymore children so I know that it won't be there for too much longer. I sometimes wonder how it will feel to sleep so high up off the ground.

    Someday my oldest will probably want his own space at night. Until then, we're here in our family bed, co-sleeping and sleep-sharing. And I love it.
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