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  • He proposed to her via the internet. They are both gamers and there was a speed run charity marathon game thing in aid of cancer prevention online that he knew she'd be watching. His mother, my step-mother is dying of cancer. When he made his donation he'd asked them to include the three most important things to him when they read it out. His love of computer games, his hatred of cancer, and his proposal to Ellie, with the question "Ellie will you marry Darren?"

    The gamer girl squealed a little looking at the donation slip before she read it out loud. Ellie sent me the link afterwards so I could see the actual proposal. I didn't understand what was going on other than the proposal but it was very cute. A proposal in their shared language. Her answer had of course been yes. It was such a 'Darren and Ellie' moment. They are two perfect geeks. They game, they watch and read fantasy drama, they speak in more 4Chan memes than the average person, they keep rabbits and don't want children. They like to be anonymous, I'm not sure if that should come with a capital A. I had to chase down Ellie for the details, to see the ring, to find out about the wedding plans (a Handfasting) because my brother is too much of a geek to actually give me any information. "Just ringing quickly with some news, Ellie and I got engaged, we're not geting married for a year or so but it's going to be a Handfasting, got to go." And that was the end of the initial conversation where I found out that Ellie was officially becoming a part of our family and Louise and I would have a new sister which is infinitely better than a brother's girlfriend. because a sister belongs to us too. They've been happy together for a good while now and are very in sync. I love them, and I laughed because they are so very 'them' all the time but most especially in this moment of declaring their lives belong to each other.

    Gaming. Geekhood. Love. Languages I don't really understand. But I know that there's a deep comprehension between my brother and his girlfriend. That they walk in step, even when that walk is an avatar is something that I can understand because love is about knowing the meaning of another person's existence, I think. They are different enough and yet the same enough to give each other both peace and excitement in the right balance to be happy. They know the buttons they need to press and the rules they need to follow as they blast their joyous way forward in this new game in which they have engaged. One that they hopefully won't speed run through it's course, but can play out in all it's intricacy for their lifetime together.
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