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  • On the morning of Sept. 26, a new cave-in was discovered at the alarming sinkhole at Bayou Corne, near Napoleonville, LA. A 1500-square-foot chunk of the southeast side fell into the sinkhole, taking in "many trees and part of the road that was built to park excavators on to resume cleanup activities," according to the Assumption Parish Police Jury blog. (

    OpEd News

    You may have seen news photos of the expanding Assumption Parish sinkhole in Louisiana.

    They show a large charcoal grey swampy area, with downed cypress trees. No one knows exactly what is going on, but there is a lot of speculation.

    Sinkholes are a worldwide phenomena, and this is just the latest sinkhole appearance, although this one may be more dangerous than most. It is still too early to tell. Studies are underway.

    Given the ongoing reports and alarming satellite pictures, I have been meditating on sinkholes as a metaphor for a certain kind of personality type which I run into from time to time.

    I am becoming a sinkhole personality spotter, that is, one who recognizes these folks early on as toxic personalities whose only concern is with themselves.

    I was not always so perceptive, and have paid dearly for my ignorance, but we live and learn, don’t we?

    A sinkhole personality type is a kind of psychic vampire, an emotional chaos merchant who can be counted on to feed on your energy, and try to manipulate you into doing his or her bidding, often at great sacrifice or harm to yourself. I shall invent a new word here: sinkholic.

    Sinkholics are like black holes in the universe. They do not emit light, but rather suck light into themselves along with everything else in sight as well. As a cover, often a sinkholic will call himself a “Lightworker,” and pretend to a grand idealism.

    Nothing could be further from the truth.

    A sinkholic will find your weaknesses and vulnerabilities, and exploit them to his/her own advantage. You are seen as a victim, and you will always lose. A veteran sinkholic is always looking for a "quick turnaround loan," a couch to sleep on, an investment in some airy fairy idea, a co-dependent relationship... It goes on. Sound familiar?

    In my learning curve about sinkholics, I have noticed certain phenomena when I am near one. From your own experience you may know what I am talking about.

    I will feel a growing sense of fatigue. I will feel a subtle resistance to any friendship that may be offered. I will feel an intuitive growing distrust, although I may not be able to put words to it. And somewhere deep in my body, there will be a sense of danger. My brain tells me: SALSIPUEDES! (That is Spanish for “Get the hell out of here.”)

    One of the most reliable signs that I am dealing with a sinkholic is an ongoing sense of confusion: things are always in a kind of, well, swamp. Things keep caving in – they just do not add up or make sense.

    If you are so fortunate to wake up if you have fallen under the spell of a sinkholic, you will have a sense of having been used, ripped off, and cruelly exploited. But at least you can be grateful that you have enough clarity to understand what went on, see how you were manipulated, and avoid these types in the future.

    Meanwhile, down in Assumption Parish, there is a stunning ongoing visual display of a sinkhole in the process of consuming the surrounding environment, sucking land, grasses and trees into the swamp.

    Sinkholics. They are out to use you or anyone they can suck into their game. Watch for them. They walk among us. Don’t get swamped.
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