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  • If you love someone....

    Tell them.


    Right now.
    This very second...

    I'm serious.

    Stop reading this, and go do it.
    Yes, you.
    Yes, now.


    Today (9/18/2012) marks the 5th year anniversary of Randy's Last Lecture.

    To most people the lecture was likely to have been nothing but a wave
    of inspiration. But for me, it has a more... rather somber association.

    Close to a month before the lecture I had exchanged the following
    e-mail with Randy:

    Date: Wed, 15 Aug 2007 10:32:41 -0400
    From: Randy Pausch


    Good to hear from you, and *of course* I remember you - things like the
    Van Gogh world leave long memories!

    I'm sure the ETC would love to have MAYA come and recruit - and there
    are definitely venues for that. Unfortunately, I'm no longer involved in the
    day-to-day of the ETC, so I've cc'd Drew Davidson, who can help you out
    with things.

    best wishes,


    Seung Chan Lim [임승찬] wrote:
    > I don't know if you remember me. My name is Slim from
    > your BVW class from way back in 1999. I worked on the
    > Van Gogh project. I've been working at MAYA Design for
    > the past 8 years!
    > I now serve as the assistant director of engineering here,
    > and we're looking to hire some hardcore thinkers who are
    > also genius makers. =)
    > I thought ETC would be full of such people! Are you the
    > right person to talk to if I want to figure out how to lure
    > those talent over? :) Are there protocols for doing such
    > a thing? (i.e. hold an informal info session @ ETC, etc...)
    > any advice would be awesome,
    > thanks!
    > slim

    I don't know if it's obvious, but I had absolutely no idea he was sick.
    As a matter of fact, the subtext of this e-mail is actually me showing
    off to Randy that I've advanced quite far in my career since graduation.
    Why am I showing off to Randy? Because I want him to be proud
    of me. It's one of those silly things we do to those we love... Instead
    of just telling them that we love them or that they mean a ton to our
    lives, we try to gain their recognition by bragging to them... and it's
    usually about something that's utterly meaningless in the grand scheme
    of things. And because we're so blinded by our own desires to be
    recognized by the other, we fail to tell them what it is that we really
    mean to tell them, which is that we love them... dearly... with
    our whole heart.

    When he told me that he's not involved in the day-to-day of the ETC,
    I was a bit baffled. But I didn't think much of it. And it wasn't until
    a couple weeks _after_ the last lecture that I found out that he was
    sick. How did I find out? By watching his lecture on the Web...

    On. the. Web...

    Of a lecture that was held just a few miles from where I worked...
    That's just... It's... *SIGH*

    I remember being completely awash in a sense of shame...
    How could I have been sooo poor at keeping in touch with someone
    I considered my hero? I tried blaming it on my shyness. I tried blaming
    it on my busy life. I tried all sorts of excuses before giving up, and
    quickly writing him a long e-mail pouring my heart out. But, as I hit
    the "send" button I began to realize that at this point his inbox was
    probably overflowing with e-mails in response to his last lecture...
    That perhaps he will never even get to read my e-mail... That he
    will never know that he saved my life.

    Staring into the computer screen, I couldn't help but ask why...
    Why couldn't I have told him sooner... How stupid does one have
    to be to wait so long to say something so simple. Why? To this
    day, it is one of the very few deep regrets I have ever felt in my life.

    Don't make the mistake I made. If you love someone. Tell them.
    Just a few simple words...

    Thank you, and I love you.

    Please. Do it for me. Do it for yourself.

    You deserve better.

    We all... deserve better.
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