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  • As a man working on his second marriage, I find there is some advice I can give to those who can't do more than "surface" forgive in a relationship.
    I was told during my divorce proceedings, and rightly so, that you can't take more than 50% of the credit or blame in any relationship. The corollary to that is you can't blame the other party more than 50% either. Whatever stupid thing they did that you can't forgive, YOU let it happen!
    So search your heart and if you can forgive yourself your own follies and foibles, you will find yourself forgiving the other party theirs.
    It won't make you like them any better, but the bitterness will go away.
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