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  • Earlier this week I went to an Al-anon meeting with my mom. Al-anon is a program for the friends and family of alcoholics, and Monday was the first time I had ever gone to one.

    There were several thoughts shared that night, but one in particular that my mother mentioned had stuck with her:

    It’s not always about me.

    I think I am innately self absorbed – What do you think of me? How will I be affected by your decision or that event? What will make me happy?

    It’s not always about me.

    I think there is a difference between selfish and self absorbed. says:

    Selfish -- devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
    Self absorbed -- preoccupied with one's own thoughts, emotions, life, etc.

    I don’t think I’m selfish. I try to sacrifice my own wants for the people that I love. But that’s just it. It’s a sacrifice; it’s hard. It’s a struggle against what I innately want to do.

    Sometimes it’s about me, but usually that’s the easy part.

    So every moment, of everyday, when I let my mind get carried away:

    It’s not always about me, it’s not always about me, it’s not always about me.
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