I've known Doug Owens for a long time. Hes always been good to my older brother Dean and i, even when we weren't much to write home about. We got to go see him yesterday and visit for a bit. Hes pretty sick these days and his time here is moving to a close quickly. He told me he wished he had sat down and talked with us more in years past about little things... other countries, making things with your hands, what we were interested in and just life in general. Just sitting down and talking with someone you care about. That's what he said he wished he experienced more of. I asked him if from where he was sitting he knew and saw any other things that we didn't. He said for the most part no, but the look in his eyes said otherwise. I'll remember that forever.
When i told him I've been thinking and praying about moving back the country this summer he said... "Don't wait 'til you're 50 to do something. Move out there and plant pecan and fruit trees now so you can see them bear fruit. They're all valuable trees. Get out there and do it. Don't wait 'til you're too old to do something."
I remember because i wrote it down on the back of a business card and put it in my wallet. We talked a little more about this and that, then it got dark and i said the best goodbye i could and went outside while Dean did the same. We got in the car and drove away. I don't really know how to put it all together but i know im thrilled and grateful to get to watch people live and watch people die with my eyes somewhat open to whats happening. Life isn't just flying past me unnoticed and unappreciated. For those of us who have been through the wringer, that's a good thing.