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  • One of my favourite phrases is ‘ kelidre helu , helidre kelu’.
    It means ‘tell only if someone asks and if you tell be ready
    to listen to the other’.
    It seems my father’s maternal uncle used to not only say
    it but also practice it.

    It is about giving advice .
    'Not giving advice' is really very difficult .All of us love doing
    it. It is not just about one generation giving advice to another
    but all older ones, whatever be the age , advising the
    younger ones.
    All of us have our opinions about everything and I suppose
    we have to get it out of our system .

    Some feel it is their birthright to give advices and they feel
    quite offended when their suggestions are not followed.
    We usually feel that we are right and others should do what
    is right, but each person feels like that and if everyone does
    what the other person tells there would be utter chaos ,
    like the story of the washer-man ,his son and their donkey.

    There are people who have done what they have wanted,all
    their lives and have realized that some of their decisions
    have not been correct ones. They feel that others should
    not make the same mistakes.
    But most of us like to do what we feel is correct.

    It is said history repeats itself. Does that mean we do
    not learn from past mistakes?

    Some have a very nice way of giving advice. My father-in-law
    always includes himself, and says, ‘ don’t you think we should
    do it this way?’. Such a way of expressing does not raise the

    Some feel that giving advice helps them to be in contact with
    their close ones, specially the younger generation. Their advice
    may or may not be followed , but it shows the other person
    that they are concerned.
    How can the other person know about their concern if they
    do not express it?

    Many believe in never expressing their opinion , they feel that
    it would be an interference on their part. But, that is the other
    extreme, it may be taken as indifference.
    All said and done,giving and taking advice is a very complicated
    I don’t think any of us really follow what others tell us to.
    I listen to what others say, there is no harm in that , and then
    do what I feel is the right thing to do :)))))

    "The best way to succeed in life is to act on the advice we give to others.
    ~Author Unknown
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