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  • A southern girl like me and marriage don't mix?
    When one is going through a divorce, one is forced to face aspects of their lives that one might never confront otherwise.
    Case in point.
    This is my third divorce. The other two ended abruptly also.
    Each relationship deteriorated between the ten and thirteen year mark.
    Divorce always brings with it the need for cash money with people like me. I don't plan for divorce. I approach each marriage like a sheep to pasture, or slaughter. I work in and outside the home, give my check to my man for bills, have babies, wait on my husbands, clean house, and convince myself, this is the life I was born to live.
    In each of those relationships I would have short moments of clarity, especially when I caught my man 'doing wrong'.
    Three times and I still don't take it personal.
    Since a child the men in my life have been, controlling, dictatorial, violent, liars and cheats, been slaves to their ego and sexual urge to procreate.
    I believed all men were like that until this latest soon to be ex husband.
    I have since realized that its not just the men at fault. This is the type of man I am attracted too and attract to my life.
    I have since realized with the hard self examination that laying the blame and fault with them, allowed me to ignore my own unconscious behaviors contributing to the demise of my unions.
    The failures and trials experienced throughout my life were stepping stones to authenticity, integrity, compassion, empathy, creative expression, and real Love.
    The trials have delivered me the capacity to savor every moment and experience life offers.
    The sad and the happy. Both bring education, wisdom, passion, ecstasy and creative manifestation.

    The time spent with each husband has brought with it pain, pleasure, and many other benefits to long to list here.
    I am grateful and thankful for the positive and negative contributions each and every person has brought my life.
    Their time with me was well spent, it has led me to healthy self knowledge and a balanced life.
    Time spent learning, loving, laughing, and sharing is never time wasted!

    All the people in my life are owed a debt of gratitude.
    I like and love who I am.
    Every person who has ever entered my life, has contributed to the development of the strong, capable, loving woman I am today.
    Without them, my life would be barren of creativity, maturity, clarity and love.
    They taught me to face my inner self, with all its insecurities, and fears and have the courage to motor through anyway.

    People can't set us free.
    War and battle can't bring us freedom.
    We were "Born Free".
    Free to fly with eagles, swim with whales, dig with gators or run with wolves~~~~~~~~~~

    Cowbird seems to have a lot of knowledgeable people.
    Here are a pair of lovely trestle tables that I know practically nothing about, except they are very old.
    Please feel free to Sprout about them?
    More pictures here.
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