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  • My mum had been caught off guard, two weeks ago, by the sudden onslaught of the E Coli bacteria. Her blood turning septic; High fever, severe aches and pains, liver affected. We were all caught off guard by it too. Mum is strong and sturdy, the anchor of our family. When she first got fever, we said, it was just the flu mum, you’ll be fine. Turned out she wasn’t. She went about with home medication, but the fever wouldn’t go, and it got worse and worse. Then finally, we took her to the hospital. She was in ER then they shifted her to the High dependency unit. She was on very strong I V anti-biotics for nine days. And she is still taking medication. Luckily, the treatment was done on time, before the poison seeped into her vital organs, otherwise, God knows what would have happened. She is out of the hospital, she is feeling better but it will take time for her to get her full strength back.
    So the last two weeks has been a bit of an emotional roller-coaster for me and the family. It also made me reflect on illness and what it teaches us, not just for the one suffering but the one who has to watch helplessly at times. Never take your loved ones for granted said Mr E Coli. He taught me that we can never ever be prepared for the disintegration or loss of those we love, we will have to endure the pain but we can cherish the moments we have together with them right now. We can just be there, play the role as best we can, and savour the relationships we have and it is enough. We can focus on life, we can focus on what we have. Even if it is just to smile and offer hope in your eyes. It counts. Even in the most stressful situations, we always have that choice, of where our focus can be. It’s not easy, I couldn’t simply switch it on and off as I pleased. Sometimes I would be overcome with fear until I stopped wanting to run away from it. I felt it dissipate, then the focus shifted. When things happen suddenly, it takes time to adjust the focus but the option is always at our disposal.
    Visiting the hospital and seeing patients in much worse conditions, seeing the love and care of the families and friends visiting, made me see love. See love in the illness. It may not make sense, but it is a discovery that brought on some lightness of being, that gave me the strength to keep the vision of mum getting better and better. I think it taught mum to pay attention to her own health and her complete well being. It’s an important lesson for her. It also taught our family about control and flow. We have no choice but to flow with things, we are always surrendered in fact to the flow of life. Control is just the illusion we kid ourselves into, for the sake of an elusive purpose. Yes, if we are ready to learn, a tiny bacteria can teach us much.
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    You gave us a scare mummy! But we are stronger having made it through this together. I look forward to earning more millions of million dollar smiles from you! It was the first smile I saw when I came into this world. It’s the best smile ever. After all, it made me stay on after an enduring dark and perilous journey across worlds and it still makes me keep going on my dark days. We all love you, although we never express it enough perhaps. Another lesson!
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