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  • Adversity is always unexpected and unwelcomed.
    It is an intruder and a thief, and yet in the hands
    of God, adversity becomes the means through
    which His supernatural power is demonstrated.

    Charles Stanley

    In "Life's Detours," Ange Gunn writes:

    "As for me, I'll be sitting here at my desk remembering why I should seize the moment, live in the present and stick to my dreams. For life is full of detours and we never know what could happen next so, there's no point in wasting time escaping from the life you're supposed to be living."


    Before the Unexpected:

    1. You never see it coming. You are not prepared. You feel as though you are falling into deep space, like the astronaut in Kubrick’s 2001 Odyssey, who falls away, away, away from the ship, an orange speck disappearing, falling through darkness, gone forever. That is what you feel like.

    2. You never see it coming, but it hits you like an electrocution of the soul. You go numb. Even the air around you seems to shift into a grey-blue fog. Suddenly, you cannot breathe. You forget what was so important. You feel frozen in time suddenly lost. You know you cannot go back, and that things will never be the same.

    3. You never see it coming. Whatever the current version of it is – wildfire, tsunami, death, breakup, crash, earthquake, meltdown, betrayal – it feels like the end of your world as you have known it. Your safe, kind, predictable, balanced world. Gone. And the worst part is, you do not know what to do, being too stunned to even cry or think.

    4. You never see it coming. It is the Unexpected, the thing you dread, the thing you hoped would never happen, slamming in out of the shadows like this. And there is nothing to say, really, nowhere to go, no-one to call. In your sub-zero silence, you feel powerless, bereft, shut down. For awhile, you want out. All the way out.

    5. You hang in, though, because you must, because the desire in you to live is greater than the nearly overwhelming desire to die. In some deep part of your being, there are fragments of hope and courage, splinters of faith, shreds of trust, particles of prayers, and these are what sustain you while you tread the waters of consciousness, gasp for air, reach out to your God, and try to salvage who you were before all this happened, before your world turned inside out, and changed forever.

    Before the Unexpected.

    (Photograph by Alex in The Junkyard, in the 3-D virtual world of Second Life)
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