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  • Last night I walked into the restaurant a few minutes late and met my friend B, a French teacher and a Parisian based journalist in town for a sporting event.

    As we finished dinner and were getting ready to leave, the French teacher suggested extending the evening by going to some bars and I declined.

    "Why are you not coming?" The French teacher asked.
    "Tomorrow is Father's day."
    "Tomorrow is Father's day?" said the journalist and the teacher in unison.

    I looked at B but he didn't say anything about his son or the holiday. As I watched him, I realized that we were sitting in that restaurant helping him keep it together as he spent his first father's day as a single father without access to his son.

    Leaving the group and heading home, I thought about my youngest daughter and her father and how lucky they both were.

    My little one is lucky because she has no biological father in her life but she does have a man who considers himself her father. This man is lucky because he has no real relationship with his biological family but he has a young girl who considers herself his daughter. From the day she asked if she could call him dad, they have been father and daughter in every way.

    It bothers him that he is not her legal father but that is not an option. When we stopped being a couple, we agreed that he would continue being her father and she would continue being his daughter. Not legally or biologically but through love for and from a child. That love created a very different kind of family but one that will always be there for each other.

    Happy Father's day to everyone lucky enough to have a child consider them their father. It is one of the most precious gifts in this world and one, I will never try to take away.
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