Forgot your password?

We just sent you an email, containing instructions for how to reset your password.

Sign in

  • The first adult relationship I ever had was with a man 10 years older, divorced, with a 9 year old child. We remained married until his death in early 2010. It was not without issues time and again, as expected when there’s a child involved. There was never any ill will involved, just the usual parental conflicts that will occur in that situation.

    Fast forward to 2011.

    I meet a man who would soon have an ex-wife, has two adult children, and two grandchildren. I thought this relationship was going to be really hard compared to my last one with all of those factors. And in some respects it’s been a bit emotional at times, but how can it not when there’s a two-plus decade worth of a marriage involved that unfortunately, dissolved. But I also knew in my heart that it would be worth it, my gut told me to keep going.

    I’ve now met both of his siblings and most of his nephews and nieces, I’ve met his children and grandchildren and I’ve met his parents. And most recently I met his ex-wife. I was nervous but she was most gracious and kind, as were all of the other guests at the event.

    Recently we received an invite to one of his grandchildren’s birthday parties. Today during lunch I went to a local store while at work and bought a gift bag and card for the gift he bought last weekend.

    Our text convo that followed:

    Me: Went on a walk to Target for some fresh air, picked up gift bag and card for Caden’s bday gift. I hope you don’t mind.
    Him: Not at all. You might as well start feeling like family.

    You know what? I do.
    • Share

    Connected stories:


Collections let you gather your favorite stories into shareable groups.

To collect stories, please become a Citizen.

    Copy and paste this embed code into your web page:

    px wide
    px tall
    Send this story to a friend:
    Would you like to send another?

      To retell stories, please .

        Sprouting stories lets you respond with a story of your own — like telling stories ’round a campfire.

        To sprout stories, please .

            Better browser, please.

            To view Cowbird, please use the latest version of Chrome, Safari, Firefox, Opera, or Internet Explorer.