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  • As a woman of a certain age approaching Dowager status , I have something to say about the vulnerability of pregnant women.

    I have to be honest and tell you that as a young woman attending university in the 70s , I abhorred feminist rhetoric. Free love , drugs , and sexual freedom reigned in that era. I didn't feel discriminated against and I felt the feminist movement discriminated against men. My thoughts that if women needed to be elevated , then so did men. If x equals y , then y equals x. Try putting that line of thinking into a mathematical equation using symbolic logic.

    I read The Hite Report with great pleasure. It was the affirmation of sexual lust to me and a license to enjoy my sexual relations to the fullest. Sexual liberation by IUD , not the Pill allowed me to explore my sexuality in full living technicolor. I had been studying medicine at the time and was appalled at what the Pill did to a woman's endocrine system. It enforced a pseudo pregnancy, mood swings , weight gain , and suppression of sexual desire. Used long term , it made it more difficult to conceive.

    Now , let's talk about abortion. My boyfriend was a Medical student who believed fervently in a woman's right to choose. He ended up working in The Morgentaler Clinic. I loved him for that but he eventually paid a price. Another story for another time.

    Onto pregnancy and the politics of pregnancy. A tome could well be written on this subject. Let me just say, that I know that you all have your own stories , both male and female. That is where we part ways , men and women. The woman is ultimately in power about her pregnancy. The decision to have a baby rests completely with her and her circumstances at the time of pregnancy. Men will never own that , never !

    In the best of all possible scenarios, her man is overjoyed and supportive or he can just walk away. Yes , it's complicated. In those days of free love , men often elected the latter claiming with the advent of The Pill , it was her responsibility.

    Let's talk about today , the 21st century. It doesn't matter what your education level is or how disenfranchised you actually are in the Western world. The fact of the matter is that jobs are disappearing in all sectors and being off loaded to third world countries. The middle class is disappearing. You are either rich or poor.

    Our young people today have eroding job security, thus delaying childbirth well into their thirties. Our Countries are beating the drum for immigration to fill the void. Single motherhood is on the rise as couples become defeated by rising student loan debt and disappearing job markets.

    It is time to have this conversation. It is time for radical thought. It is time to support millenials ,young people to have more children. It is time to forgive student debt. It is time for tax incentives for another baby boom. It is time to support family units. It is time that young families should be able to live on one income without being taxed literally to extinction.

    My mother was a single mother , I was a single mother , my daughter is a single mother. This is becoming normal , all for different generational reasons.

    We need to examine the underlying social and cultural phenomena that is sanctioning this destructive trend.

    It hurts the children and ultimately it hurts us all. Population trends have become controversial. Who has the right to bear children? Tell me ! Who ? Is this a political decision?

    Families are societal institutions which reinforce cultures. Strong families reinforce our values and give us a place to belong.

    I have come full circle and fathers need to be at the dinner table in their rightful place joining the family conversation. In my world , you are sorely missed. Join the table and share the joys of family life. We can do it without you , but not without great loss. Loving fathers complete the family and bring much security and protection.

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