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  • A safety net is knowing that if you fall there is someone there to catch you. I don't know if a person even thinks about that if they've always had them. Maybe one of the good things about having them late in life is not taking them for granted. Although, its taking me time to actually use them.

    What I hadn't really realised, was that all the while I had none, I was still being one for someone else.
    I suddenly saw that today, when Dado rang me. She only ever rings me when she's in trouble. And I haven't heard from her in two years. After I'd spoken to her, I realised I don't mind not hearing from her after all this time. It matters nothing. She calls when she needs me and I do what I can. This time it was easy. Last time it wasn't so.

    Last time she was picked up in the dead of night and held in a UK detention centre. She was being sent back to the place where her family had tried to cut her as a teenager, Female Genital Mutilation still being practised in Gambia. How she got the sense to leave them all behind and how the set of circumstances led her to here I really don't know. What I did know was how to spot a legal loophole (don't ask me how - I have no legal training but Human Rights Law turns out to be one of those things I can just 'do' and I've done it more than once, more on that another time) and I know how to shame Lawyers into doing what they should (again, don't ask me how - even I can't explain that one). And sometime later. I had her out.

    It occurred to me today that it I don't think it matters that I'm not more involved in her life. I guess I make hers just easier, knowing I'm there.

    Like me, she's a woman who walks her own tightrope and is still learning to remember she has a safety net for more than just the high ropes.
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