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  • When I was young and I'd look at old married couples, I'd wonder to myself, "How did they know that they were supposed to be together?" Was there some definitive way you could find this out, or was it just a matter of trying out all of your options and picking the best of the bunch? I had a feeling it had something to do with Getting Older And Wiser, that I didn't have the facilities to know these things when I was only a kid.

    And yet. Barely out of high school, and really still a kid in a lot of ways, I had The Moment - the moment when you know you've met the person you're going to be with for the rest of your lives. Nothing could have deterred me from that knowing. Not in that moment. Not after it. Not even when I found out that he was in a new relationship, one that continued for two and a half years after The Moment.

    The knowing I still feel deep in my bones. A knowing I see daily in the face of our daughter. A knowing that persists in the face of disagreements, familiarity, financial stress, and the great leveler of time.

    Because when you know, you just know.
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