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  • Joining Cowbird has given me the wonderful opportunity to re-visit the stories of my life. I have kept all the photos I've taken on this journey and now they are proving essential in reminding me of the details and memories I've forgotten. Would I burn or delete them to please my wife, as Katie is contemplating to do for her hubs?


    Those photos are a reminders of the experiences that made me who I am today. I would not be the man whom which she fell in love, were it not for the events they captured in silver ions and pixels. Memory is a pliable thing. Scientists now say that we re-write our memories every time we recollect them, changing them slightly every time. I'm in my 50's now, and can tell you with certainty that when I look at my photos from the '70s, they help repair the damage caused by decades of remembering. I can imagine they will be even more valuable in my 90s, should I be blessed to live that long.

    I wouldn't display them around the house. I'd never rub my dear wife's nose in memories of relationships past. When our friends recollect old trips and treks taken with exes, they're always spoken about as mere facts. Careful attention is paid to not remembering simpler days too fondly, so as not to hurt the feelings of those who love us today. The photos stay hidden away in boxes and hard drives, ready to reference when a friend wants to visit the same place, or a story needs to be told. They are not part of my everyday life, but they are an essential record of the life I've lived.

    We all have pasts. They should never be redacted to suit another's ego, or placate their insecurities.

    Don't delete those photos Katie. Hide them away, hell, encrypt them if you must.

    Keep them, for the future you.
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