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  • I had a lovely conversation with a dear friend today. Another woman who works in politics and is also fiercely independent, a hyper communicator, and beautiful inside and out.

    We both refuse to settle. For a life lived with less passion, less joy, less agency, less change for the better of the world.

    I've watched her career skyrocket in the past two years and beamed with pride. That's my friend! Kicking ass working for one of the most powerful Senators of the United States. A Latina who was the first of her family to graduate college, she is a rockstar and a champion. And she's watched me too. A promotion this year at a place I love and believe in, managing digital communications and a vast research program that impacts progressive politics across all of Washington State. We celebrate each other because that's what true friends are for.

    Sometimes I wake up and want to pinch myself. Am I really living this life? In this beautiful city of Seattle, full of its books and trees and art and magic? Able to do something that makes me want to jump out of bed in the morning?

    I had thought the fullest I could ever live was this life plus the relationship I had with my now ex-partner. But I've realized that it had nothing to do with him--my happiness has now and always come from my fulfillment with my own life, and that's how it should be. There are so many things for me to learn still, so many places to see. I want to keep growing and changing--taking improv classes, writing classes, putting myself out there even when it's uncomfortable. Growth doesn't come from comfort or settling. Growth comes from stretching beyond myself while still staying connected to who I am. Growth comes from reflection and consideration of a different way of thinking. And only I can spark that growth, with my own willingness and openness to new ideas and change.

    I refuse to settle for any other life. The life of a strong, fierce woman, fully capable and happy on her own.
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