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  • I recently met a cute redhead online who lives in Seattle and after a few weeks of texting and talking on the phone we decide to meet in San Francisco. Then she tells me her ex-husband is really still her husband, and they still live in the same house but have been a couple for two years. She doesn’t have only three kids of her own, 20 year-old triplets, but also two younger step-kids she has raised and the reason she still lived with her husband. Then she left early.

    This has reminded me something similar that happened to me in my early 20s, also in San Francisco, though I was living there at the time. I met a girl and we had sex a couple times and within a week she had moved in with me. And then she told me she had herpes, and had not advised me to wear a condom.

    Which is worse? Are the two even comparable? When I was in my early 20s I got over that pretty quick and fell in love, I just immediately started wearing condoms never caught it. With the event in my late 40s, I didn’t get upset, I kinda just shook my head and said things like “well that’s not how you build trust” and considered the definition of a lie. But the buzz was killed and she went home early, and that perhaps, seems to be pretty much that.

    In the end the herpes girl wins in the hidden information competition, however, as after 11 months of living together and being all in young love, she said she was moving to Wisconsin for school, which had been her plan the whole time we had been together. That one hit very hard, one of the big heartbreaks of my life. So yeah, I guess that was by far the worst.
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