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  • I just finished Elizabeth Gilbert's novel "The Signature of All Things." I only read it because Rob Bell said it was one of the best books he's ever read, and I have a thing for Rob. Not like a gay thing, more like an admiration/jealousy thing. Rob and Elizabeth are traveling around the country with Oprah (Winfrey) doing their thing, speaking life into peoples' lives, and I figured if these two wonderful people collaborated to write and then read and then recommend a book and then go so far as to post it on the internet for all to see then I might as well give it a chance.

    It's a long book, which I don't like. And it's hardcover -- two strikes against it. Oh and it's about a woman in the 1800's. Can it get more boring, you ask? I'm glad you asked because yes, it can. This woman is a botanist. OK.

    I couldn't stop reading, until I did. It's about plants and relationships and evolution and spiritual things. I wrote a 3-sentence review of it on Goodreads and then made sure it was posted to Facebook because I just love it when people give me attention for things that I say. I read an article on the Huffington post a few days ago about a somewhat newly married woman who started hanging out with a guy at a dog park, they were just talking, really, but then she started walking by his house hoping to see him, and every time she saw him she just really enjoyed him. And even during intimate times with her husband she started thinking of dog park guy. She's happily married and she still wants to cheat on her husband.

    Previously I would have thought, God what a harlot, just be faithful to your vows for Christ's sake and your husband's and your own flimsy soul's sake, but honestly now I'm thinking, Yeah that sounds about right.

    Elizabeth Gilbert says that your soul mate and your partner may not be the same person. Your soul mate is someone who brings out passion in you, who you argue with and who you feel like is your other half or whatever. But your husband or wife is different (though some people do end up marrying their soul mate, which can be wonderful and horrible) -- they're your cheerleader and best friend. They're your best friend.

    If you married your best friend and then later found your soul mate, or one of your soul mates, how tempting would it be to sail off into the sunset with them? Even without a boat, how tempting would that be?

    Rob Bell and his wife recently wrote a book on marriage called The Zimzum of Love.

    I'm not married but I think about these things a lot -- commitment and soul mates and settling and zimzums.
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